If you want something more than a “repeat after me,” you might want to write your own wedding vows. If you decide to dip the ink into your poetic side, do not lose sight of the purpose. The promises you make on your wedding day are the reason for it all. We are sharing a few tips to help you write your own wedding vows.
An Outline for Wedding Vows
Like everything else, your wedding vows have a blueprint. Create an outline that begins with the reasons this other person has your heart. This could be a background story, a quote or a special reading that sets the stage. Avoid making your wedding vows too wordy. Follow with all of your reasons for loving this person. Finish with your promises. If you are including traditions, such as a unity cup, sand ceremony, handfasting ceremony or jumping the broom, you will probably plan unique vows during those rituals. Your wedding officiant will conduct the ceremony. Make sure you plan your outline and your unique ceremony with your officiant.
Readings Before Exchanging Wedding Vows
You might open with a few borrowed words. If you do, the readings take place before the wedding vows. Readings are popular. The words of Corelli’s Mandolin are frequently borrowed for the way they define love as “ . . . a temporary madness [that] erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. [It’s when] your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. [L]ove is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. [L]ove itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.” Variations of this beautiful piece of literature are a perfect way to set the stage for your wedding vows and express the deep, tested and tried love you have for the person before you on your wedding day. If you choose to open your wedding vows with a quote, choose a quote that is relevant to your relationship.
Making the Promises
Wedding vows are promises. Instead of thinking about what you will say, think about how you feel. Think about your relationship, why you fell in love, and the expectations in the relationship. Religion and culture might help it take shape. However, you are making your own promises. You might begin with a list of words that define your relationship. Your list could include respect, cherish and love. This is the most important part of it all. Make sure you spend the most time on this part of your wedding vows.
Practice Your Wedding Vows
Wedding vows might be written, but they must be spoken on your wedding day. Avoid the sound of reading from a card. This will make it feel less than genuine. Practice can help you find your cadence and say it perfectly. Think about the intonation in your voice and the timing. Deliver your wedding vows from your heart. As you practice, you might want to make some changes. For this reason, write your wedding vows a few weeks before your wedding day to allow time for the extra edits.
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